Change is the Only Constant thing.

Have you heard people ranting and whining about how everything has changed around them? how times have changed and how people have changed? well that happens on a very frequent basis. thus my title is justified. Change is actually the only constant thing in the world.

But when will the change in humanity come. In fact let me frame it this way, when will we stop speaking and do something? When will we stop questioning and start coming up with solutions? Well it is never too late for anything.
 Given the circumstances, everyday we do read in the newspaper or hear in the news about some rape or molestation or any other sexual abuse and what do we do about that? we feel bad for a fraction of second, maybe even have an hour long discussion on it with someone or the other or even share the news on facebook and caption it as "what a shame!". But that is all. When i read posts across twitter and facebook on how rapists in other countries are not given even a second thought, forget second chances, i wonder why is  it only in our country that a juvenile escapes punishment because he is too young to be punished but on the ironical path, he can go and rape a woman without any mind. I mean, equality stands in our rights, so let it be equal. According to me, all rapists should be hung when caught. well i am calling them by that term because they are worse than criminals, criminals repent, they don't know mercy so repentance is out of their dictionary.

I may sound like some amateur talking about making laws and bringing a change. Something I will agree and not be a hypocrite about, I do not have that much capabilities to make the change but if i can be a part of it, I will not back out. The change needs to happen, the revolution needs to occur, the justice needs to be given. Let us stand up for the women who can't raise their voice, but we can. We can let the world know that our country does give justice to women and this can only be possible if we bend the laws, script the new law of punishing the ones who made the women suffer.

The spark is within us, all we need to do is make it a fire, big enough to spread the word and not let any more of us suffer. We shall let those individuals know that harassing women, molesting them and not letting them live a life can take their lives away for ever.

Dry and Faded.

It is very easy to let it all out and just keep crying, whining and cribbing about something. But when it comes to some emotions which you know there is no use even if you let it all out. It just gets accumulated within and you become so closed to it that you don’t know what any of the feelings feel like. May be once in a while you might sit in some corner and cry out , tears trickling down your eyes, and quickly rub it all off when you know someone around you is watching you. This exactly how you become with all emotions. People who have had all the happiness in life and suddenly have everything taken away from them and left with nothing, they become very careful about the little bit of happiness they gain from anything. These kind of people loose attachment from everything and anything. They no longer know the feeling of seeing someone after so long or being at home after months or even the feeling of waiting for someone. I feel sad for such people. They used to be maybe a person of out bursting emotions and finding happiness in little things. Now it is all about straight faces, stagnant emotions and dry tears. Nothing can ever make them happy except for what they have lost on the way. The fear of losing everything is the greatest fear in the world. They don’t expect anything from anyone anymore.

The funny part being, people around this particular person will feel as if everything is all right and nothing was ever wrong. But little do they know that behind every smile and laughter there is a shallow side. If they hurt someone intentionally or even unintentionally, they won’t feel the slightest tinge of regret or guilt or will even have the urge to apologize. And that is exactly how people will start drifting from the individual. Such people like being alone rather than being lonely. They believe in just themselves and nothing else. They have got no strings attached and have completely rigged of every wire of connection they ever had with any kind of emotion.

So if you ever happen to feel you have such people around you, don’t sympathize with them nor should you expect any sympathies out of them- Because they are probably stuck at a point of time of their life which they haven’t yet gotten over. Give them their space and time. someday time will heal them, and someday they will heal the time.

Love never dies, it just gets lost!

It is at the end of the day all about emotions and feelings. Love is peculiar in its own way. It makes some people strong and some people weak. For me it does the work for both. I have learnt over the years that love is not something that you give up on so easily. It requires patience, understanding and most of all trust. Deep thoughts and blurting out emotions are not going to be the only thing I am going to talk about here.

 Maturing over the years, understanding what exactly it is to be in love or rather falling in love. It is not some kind of obsession or infatuation. It is just a simple feeling where you know that there is that one person whom you want to celebrate your success with and cry to when something bad hits. Love defines a relationship. Building it on that one sole factor- If that’s not there then there is no point of calling it a relationship. Well I am very much in love and there is nothing bad in it. I love the idea of being in love. Makes you smile every now and then when you think about that person or just makes you go all romantic and makes you do all kind of gestures to show the love. The person I love is far away from me but that doesn’t make my love stop from growing.

“We have been through the best and the worst, through laughter and cry, through summers and winters, but never let that shake the foundation.”

 Believing in love is more important than anything else. I believe everything has its crests and troughs. Living in the present is equally important because we never know what is in store for us in the next moment. Being together is not what defines love. Love is defined by being happy in your beloved’s happiness. Love is selfless and it doesn’t demand or deceive, neither does it die or disappear. It just gets lost among the rest of the elements of emotions. It is time’s one way of indicating that life is hard and we need to find our way out of it.

So next time you feel love is bullshit and there is no point of being in love, think over it and find that one reason that had kept you till now in that pit of love. If you still do not find that reason then it’s better to come out of it rather than die in it.

To Him,

We’ve grown together in so many ways. I’ve learnt so many things from you and I hope you’ve learned from me too. I’ve tried, you’ve tried. I’ve sulked, you’ve sulked. We both agreed, disagreed, stormed and relented. We have made some of the best decisions and made few blunders too. It’s been an ongoing process of adapting, understanding, accepting, caring and loving. But at the end of all this, we have been together. You were there throughout everything I have ever been through. And if you haven’t been there then I blame time and not you. Life always doesn’t work in our favor. And sometimes it didn’t work out for us. But one thing that was there all this while was us. 

We’ve traveled quite a distance together and there’s still a long way to go. Everyday there is something new to face with a new dawn. Distance in kilometers is never the barrier, in fact distance in the relationship is. No matter how far two people are from each other, if trust and love exists, the kilometers milestone doesn't stand a chance to destroy anything.

From Her.

Prioritize the right

What are priorities?

“It’s not enough to be busy; so are the ants. The question is: what are we busy about?”

~Henry David Thoreau

I am a third year college student pursuing my engineering degree and every day I am piled up with endless number of assignments. I never seem to reach the end of the pile and can never take a sigh of relief. But in spite of how much ever busy I get, I don’t forget to give a call to my mom, now the duration is sometimes a 5 second one or a five minutes. It doesn’t matter how long it is, it’s what you do. Things which matter the most should never be at the mercy of the least.

So again I come to the same question, what are priorities? Well, in simple words, priority is just the expression of importance through actions and not just through thoughts. Honestly we are never too busy for anything or anyone whom we love. I love writing and I look for the smallest escape from my packed routine to write few words, pen down some thoughts and feel happy. I have seen my father put family before his work sometimes just to see us jolly. So yes, you have never enough reasons to say no to yourself from doing something you love.

The major problem we all have is that we prioritize things that are urgent the most and not enough on the things that are important and will last through forever. There are a lot of factors that shape our priorities in our daily lives. It is what we put at stake and what we leave behind.

Talking about priorities, while I am writing this, I have a lab record to complete and two assignments due and they are kept right in front of me haunting me but I chose to write because this is what I love and this is what will keep me happy. Those assignments can wait and well I can spend an extra few hours on them but this is like something which I want to do, so I am doing it. My very close friend has her birthday right in the middle of our semester finals but we somehow manage to take out few hours to make it special and a happy day for her because that’s kind of our priority at that point.

the friend i was talking about :P

So next time you feel you are doing everything right, look back at the timeline and see the things you have missed and the times you have disappointed people. Give your loved ones sixty seconds calls or give yourself the pleasure of the time to spend on what you love. Go take a trip to the bookstore or sit by the beach reminiscing memories or maybe surprise the people who have been waiting for you since forever.